Let the summer begin...

So here it is, the first full day of summer vacation. 8 short weeks of it. When we all finished school yesterday we did something special. Mike took the kids to the lake and they loved swimming. I came home and took a nap with my two little kittens while the kids mindlessly played on their electronics! We headed out to a celebratory dinner (early) and while there wasn't much to say or share (I think we were all exhausted) we sat and ate and had a few conversations, although forced! Jackson read his book and Riley busied herself with the items on the table and the chance to win a trip to London by guessing when Kate Middleton was going to have her baby. Home again and although you'd think we'd be ready to relax together, there was nothing but sibling bickering, parental yelling and threats to take away the electronics ALREADY! "Your feet are touching me" "Stop chewing like that" "You are bothering me" and the like. Our small house gets smaller, the couch doesn't fit us all (and we weren't all even home, Mike was at work). We manage, we watch Full House, and I'm counting the minutes just to get us all to bedtime. Phone rings at 8:45 and it's my sister-in-law, you know it isn't a social call. Mike's mom is in the hospital with stomach pains, oh dear god, what next. I call him and I think his head is going to pop off! Please help us get through these next few days and then we can be off to D.C. together and relax? Really? Slamming the box across the hallway, stomping feet and yelling about toothbrushes and finally they're in bed. Riley is beside herself in tears. Apparently I yelled at her one too many time and sent her over the edge. Tears streaming down the sides of her face and she says "I just want to go back to 190 Oak Street, I want to go home" and in the moment I feel her pain, her frustration, her sadness. I take a deep breath (which I usually am unable to do in these situations) and have her do the same. We talk about how it is going to be summer vacation, yes, but one thing at a time. We won't think about it in big chunks or scary "to do" lists. We have 8 weeks. It's not that much time. Yes, we aren't going to be all together at camp and our days will be different, but that will be okay. "But all my friends, the majority, go to camp" she says and I say actually dear one, the majority can't afford camp so we have been the lucky ones these last two years, being able to go to camp because Mom worked there, you went there. A cold washcloth (Marge's advice) and the 10 minute rule and she is fast asleep in no time having Melatonin dreams. Jackson too is asleep quickly and its my time, although now I'm worried about my husband and mother-in-law and its hot and the dribble of wine left in the bottle isn't going to cut it I'm afraid so I hang it up and go to bed too. So now we're back to this morning, I said "I'm getting up at 7 to go for a walk" and Riley said "You won't do it, Mom", and she's right, it's 7:56 and although I'm up, its typing I'm doing and going to get that first cup of coffee. Because who knows what today still has yet to bring us. Welcome to you summer vacation, please be kind, we have been through a lot! side note: My mother-in-law had her appendix out this morning and we are hoping for a speedy recovery.

Just telling me now!

Deep breath and take the next step forward. With one of those deep breaths I walked into yet another IEP meeting today, at least 12 of them under my belt, and this being the one I have been least prepared for, because my papers are in a pile and smell like smoke and have soot stains on them. As I listened to my sons teachers talk about how smart he is and how engaging I smiled, then the zinged me with how much of the actual content of the lessons he is missing because of his frequent trips to the bathroom! Come on people, it's March! You think if this was an issue we'd be on it by now....this is the danger of working with special education staff and not having the carry over with the general education teachers, where does it break down? Obliviously there isn't a medical connection to this soooo, yes, a functional behavior. Then the BCBA who has known him forever has to look at his documents to see that there is no FBA in his plan, like I pointed out many times before~there should be! So onto the next "issue" or "problem" if you will, and with a deep breath I continue to move forward!

February 24, 2013

Just like with everything else, the TV remote isn't working now....what is on the list today... (And yeah, blah blah blah you should focus on the positive, not the negative!). Oh, I know, the fact that the toilet almost overflowed right after Mike left for work, Jackson filling it with too much @&$-! Hmm, oh yeah I know, how many times has Riley asked this afternoon if we were safe, if the doors were locked, if we were going to get robbed, if I heard voices, people walking....etc. Well, that doesn't sound like much, but it is. After a weekend where my little girl was in the hospital anyway. But if she doesn't fall asleep soon, ill scream! My pillow is bad, I can't get comfortable, I can't fall asleep, etc. ugh, my patience has been wearing thin. Ok a bowl of fritos and I'm back ... In what world is that sentence okay? Anything, really anything happens in this house. It's a "shields up" environment here, waiting for the next thing, for the other shoe to drop!

February 22, 2013

Sitting and waiting those if the medicine will react. It's 5:07 and Riley and I are at Metrowest Medical Center in Framingham. I brought her here to the ER last night because she threw up yesterday morning at the hotel and we thought she might be dehydrated. After 2 phone calls to the pediatrician, they concurred and told us to go to the ER to get fluids. Fast forward to almost 12 hours from when I left the house last night and here we sit, waiting to see if the Bactrim is going to work, scared to have to go through what we did last night, all over again. I hate antibiotics and the fact that they "don't work" - it annoys and scares me at the same time. Not a hive in sight yet, one hour after an oral dosage. Fingers and toes crossed and scared too that even if she doesn't react tonight before we leave the hospital, that she might when we get home, I hope not. It's hard right now to place my trust in a higher power, with the fire and now this. It seems like we can't get out from under, it sucks! I do want so badly to move forward but we keep getting stuck!

February 21, 2013

Heading home in the car from Lenox, MA after 3 days of a "vacation" with my sister and her family. Relaxed except for my 11 year old with her head on my shoulder, asleep, sick. We met in Springfield at the Basketball Hall of Fame on Tuesday. We had lunch at Plan B Burger restaurant. We laughed and talked and ate. We went to the museum for the rest of the visit. Lots to do and see. The kids really liked it I think. Onto Lenox and the Yankee Inn. We checked in, did some exploring, swimming and ate pizza together for dinner. We stayed up playing Catch Phrase with the kids and had some beverages. Next morning the big boys went skiing and after breakfast we went to the Berkshire Museum. It was a great place with a little something for everyone in the crowd, dinosaurs, Greek statues. Indian jewelry, boxes and tape and the aquarium. A brief exit for lunch at the Highland Diner in Pittsfield and we went back to the museum for more exploring, complete with turtles doing shenanigans and a bully turtle trying to escape his blue bucket, using his muscles again and again, perseverance embodied in a turtle. I know how you feel turtle but how do you keep trying? The Eagles "we may lose and we may win, but we will never be here again...." Live each day and don't get ahead of yourself or stay behind mulling over decisions and choices. Message for our kids. Last night we all went out to dinner together, to The Dakota. We had a nice time, everyone together. Afterwards we hung out and called it a night , to wake up and say goodbye to the Casavants. My Riley, not feeling very well and come to find out, having a stomach bug. Here we are, traveling home. A deep breath again to move on with this day, and the next one, one at a time.

January 22, 2013

And what exactly do I do now? It's 9:50pm and I'm exhausted. Make lunches is still on the list along with a million other things. 1. Get rid of all the clothes and shoes, and stuff that we don't need in this temporary house 2. Record all gifts and send out thank-you cards? Or feel guilt and don't do it 3. Research how to build a house 4. Wonder where all those friends of mine who were here the first few days have gone.... 5. Finishing making sure they listed every last item that I owned in my house that is covered in soot and smoke and soon will be cleared out of every last thing I ever owned, chose or cherished 6. Laundry, it's always there 7. Figure out how not to scald myself tomorrow in the shower with only scalding hot water! 8. Worry about taking too many days off from school with a principal that sucks 9. Cry Okay so not a million but I'm tired of thinking and writing so it's 9 for tonight, that'll have to do.

January 8, 2013

Coffee spills on the floor a s he shuffles by and Mike yells, it's par for the course around here and day 2 back to school after our house fire 11 days ago. We are all in a strange environment, trying to get used to new stuff and its like playing wipeout sometimes the physical obstacles we have to get over, not to mention the emotional ones. So coffee on the floor, papers and pencils, it will have to be that way, for a while I'm afraid.